Send an IRC listener user their own TOPIC, MODE and KICK once (closes #143)

The service sends a TOPIC, MODE or KICK to every channel member, the
issuer included, and the IRC listener also echoes it to the issuer's
connection, so an IRC listener user got each of their own changes
twice. The relay now drops one whose sender is the connection's own
nick, as it already does for PRIVMSG, NOTICE, JOIN, PART, NICK and
QUIT. The direct echo stays: it carries the real hostmask and arrives
in order. The README MODE section no longer describes a second copy.

Model: opus-5-5

internal/ircserver/relay_test.go

@@ -292,3 +292,70 @@ func TestRelayNickDiffersOnlyInCase(t *testing.T) {
 		}
 	}
 }
+
+// TestRelayOwnChangeOnce checks that an IRC listener user who
+// sets a topic, changes a channel mode or kicks gets one TOPIC,
+// MODE or KICK line for it, and so does the other member.
+func TestRelayOwnChangeOnce(t *testing.T) {
+	t.Parallel()
+
+	for _, step := range []struct {
+		command, line string
+	}{
+		{"TOPIC", "TOPIC #dup :new topic"},
+		{"MODE", "MODE #dup +m"},
+		{"KICK", "KICK #dup carl :bye"},
+	} {
+		t.Run(step.command, func(t *testing.T) {
+			t.Parallel()
+
+			env := newTestEnv(t)
+
+			alice := env.dial(t)
+			alice.register("alice")
+			alice.joinAndDrain("#dup")
+
+			carl := env.dial(t)
+			carl.register("carl")
+			carl.joinAndDrain("#dup")
+
+			alice.send(step.line)
+
+			// The reply to alice's next command comes after her
+			// command has finished, so her own copy comes before it.
+			beforePong := alice.sendAndExpect("PING :done", "PONG")
+
+			// The relay sends a user's queue in order, so a message
+			// queued now arrives after any relayed copy.
+			for nick, client := range map[string]*testClient{
+				"alice": alice, "carl": carl,
+			} {
+				env.queueMessage(
+					t, nick, "PRIVMSG", "dave", nick,
+					[]string{"after the change"},
+				)
+
+				lines := client.readUntil(func(l string) bool {
+					return strings.HasSuffix(l, " :after the change")
+				})
+
+				if client == alice {
+					lines = slices.Concat(beforePong, lines)
+				}
+
+				var changes []string
+
+				for _, line := range lines {
+					if strings.Contains(line, " "+step.command+" #dup ") {
+						changes = append(changes, line)
+					}
+				}
+
+				if len(changes) != 1 {
+					t.Errorf("%s got %q, want one %s line",
+						nick, changes, step.command)
+				}
+			}
+		})
+	}
+}