Set fx.StopTimeout inside the container stop grace (closes #134)

fx defaults the stop timeout to 15s and the Dockerfile sets no
STOPSIGNAL or grace override, so Docker's 10s default SIGKILLs the
process five seconds before the bound can fire. Everything gated on
it — including the "shutdown timed out, goroutines still running"
error log that tells an operator a component is wedged — was
unreachable in the image this repo produces.

Set fx.StopTimeout to 5s: inside the grace with headroom for signal
delivery and process exit. The option set moves into newApp() so a
test can read (*fx.App).StopTimeout() back and pin it against
drift; dropping the option makes that test report fx's 15s default.

Lower the HTTP drain budget (server.ShutdownTimeout) from 5s to 3s.
fx bounds the whole stop sequence and returns without running its
remaining hooks once the stop context expires, so two equal values
meant a drain that used its full budget exhausted the sequence
budget at that instant and skipped every later hook — the delivery
engine, the healthcheck, the webhook DB manager and the database
close — in exactly the case where the drain mattered. The tail
hooks are microsecond-scale in normal operation, so 2s of remaining
budget is ample, and holding the total at 5s keeps a wide margin
under Docker's 10s grace. The constant is exported so
TestStopTimeout_LeavesHeadroomForTailHooks can pin the relationship
and fail on a future edit to either value. This does not make the
database close unconditional: the ArchiveSweeper and RetentionReaper
hooks run before the server and can still consume the whole budget.

Also fix a latent coin flip in the shared stop-hook waiter. It
selected on the drained channel against ctx.Done() with no
preamble, and select picks uniformly among ready cases, so a
component that drained against an already-expired context reported
a timeout about half the time. Not reachable through fx, which
re-checks ctx.Err() before each hook, but the helper is shared and
a direct caller can reach it. waitDone now settles the drained case
in a non-blocking preamble first; the test drives it over 1000
passes, so a restored coin flip cannot pass by luck.

README records the real stop-hook order (ArchiveSweeper,
RetentionReaper, server, delivery.Engine, healthcheck,
WebhookDBManager, database close), the two timeouts and their
relationship, and the container stop grace: that lowering the grace
below the bound puts SIGKILL back in front of it, and that an
expired stop context makes fx skip its remaining hooks, so a wedge
in the first-stopped component means the database close never runs.
Adds the missing internal/lifecycle/ entry to the Package Layout
tree.

internal/server/server.go

@@ -24,9 +24,15 @@ import (
 )
 
 const (
-	// shutdownTimeout is the maximum time to wait for the HTTP
+	// ShutdownTimeout is the maximum time to wait for the HTTP
 	// server to finish in-flight requests during shutdown.
-	shutdownTimeout = 5 * time.Second
+	//
+	// It must stay strictly below the fx stop timeout in
+	// cmd/webhooker, which bounds the whole stop sequence: a drain
+	// that used the entire sequence budget would leave nothing for
+	// the hooks that run after the server, including the database
+	// close. It is exported so that relationship can be tested.
+	ShutdownTimeout = 3 * time.Second
 
 	// sentryFlushTimeout is the maximum time to wait for Sentry
 	// to flush pending events during shutdown.
@@ -164,7 +170,7 @@ func (s *Server) cleanShutdown(ctx context.Context) {
 	s.exitCode = 0
 
 	ctxShutdown, shutdownCancel := context.WithTimeout(
-		ctx, shutdownTimeout,
+		ctx, ShutdownTimeout,
 	)
 	defer shutdownCancel()