Keep the local index when remote nuke cannot list or find the destination (closes #292)

`remote nuke` took a destination store it could not list, or one
without `vaultik-destination.txt` while the local index held
snapshots, as a warning: it then cleared the local snapshot records,
and for an unplugged volume's empty mount point reported the store
empty and exited zero. The bulk remove nuke runs now fails on either
before it removes anything; only a local-only remove still goes on
with a warning. It also deletes each snapshot's remote metadata before
its local record, so a failed delete keeps the snapshot in the local
index under its name instead of leaving it on the destination store
as a remote-only snapshot.

Model: opus-5-5

docs/REPOSTRUCTURE.md

@@ -27,7 +27,7 @@ The metadata subdirectory is named with the **remote key**, a one-way hash of th
 
 ## Marker File (`vaultik-destination.txt`)
 
-Every backup writes this file at the root before it uploads anything. It holds one fixed line of plain text and names no host, path or time. A destination without it is treated as not present while the local index holds snapshots stored there: `snapshot create` refuses to write to it, and `prune`, `snapshot purge`, `snapshot remove` and `snapshot list` behave as for a destination that cannot be listed. An unplugged volume leaves an empty directory at its mount point, and without the marker that directory would read as a destination whose snapshots are all gone. `remote nuke` deletes the marker last.
+Every backup writes this file at the root before it uploads anything. It holds one fixed line of plain text and names no host, path or time. A destination without it is treated as not present while the local index holds snapshots stored there: `snapshot create` refuses to write to it, and `prune`, `snapshot purge`, `snapshot remove`, `snapshot list` and `remote nuke` behave as for a destination that cannot be listed. An unplugged volume leaves an empty directory at its mount point, and without the marker that directory would read as a destination whose snapshots are all gone. `remote nuke` deletes the marker last.
 
 ## Blobs Directory (`blobs/`)