Instance name on process log lines and every metric (closes #91)

Process log lines carry instance, as request lines do; the instance name
is read before the other settings, so the line saying a setting is
invalid carries it too. Every metric, Go's and the process's included,
carries the label instance, set once on the registry. README.md says so,
and that Prometheus keeps it as exported_instance unless the scrape sets
honor_labels.

Tests that read metrics expect the label. One test helper replaces the
two alert tests' loops that wait for the metrics.

Judgement call: the label is named instance, as in the log lines and
alerts, although Prometheus gives each target a label of that name.

Model: opus-5-5

internal/proxy/proxy.go

@@ -88,7 +88,7 @@ type Server struct {
 // applies the timeouts and size limits from then on.
 func New(params Params) *Server {
 	errorLog := slog.NewLogLogger(params.ProcessLog.Handler(), slog.LevelWarn)
-	m := metrics.New(params.Config.MetricsTopN)
+	m := metrics.New(params.Config.MetricsTopN, params.Config.InstanceName)
 	h := &handler{
 		config:     params.Config,
 		requestLog: params.RequestLog,