Stat in the walk, hash only shared sizes, flush batches mid-scan

Restructure scan into three phases: walk+stat, hash, update.

The stat pass is folded into the walk workers: each regular file is
lstatted as its directory is read, while the metadata is hot. The
walk builds a scan-wide size census (walked files plus records
outside the scan roots), and unchanged already-hashed files resolve
during the walk without further work.

Only files whose size at least one other file shares are ever read:
a size-unique file cannot be a duplicate, so it is recorded without
hashes (head and tail empty). When a later scan makes its size
shared, the file is hashed then, even if otherwise unchanged. report
excludes unhashed records; trees gives them a never-matching
signature so a tree containing one never compares equal to another.

Hashed records are committed in batched transactions while the hash
phase runs, so an interrupted scan keeps everything hashed so far
and the next run resumes cheaply. The hash phase total is exact,
giving a meaningful ETA.

Memory drops accordingly: the existing-record index holds only path,
size, mtime, and a hashed flag (no hash values); the walk carries one
small record per candidate file; overlapping operands are pruned up
front instead of deduplicating every walked path in a scan-wide set.
Files no bigger than one chunk are hashed with a single read.

db.go

@@ -238,6 +238,44 @@ func loadFileRows(db *sql.DB) ([]scanRec, error) {
 	return recs, nil
 }
 
+// loadFileMeta streams every record's path, size, mtime, and whether
+// it carries hashes to fn. Scan change detection needs no hash
+// values, and skipping the hash columns keeps the scan's in-memory
+// index small on multi-million-file databases.
+func loadFileMeta(db *sql.DB,
+	fn func(path string, size, mtime int64, hashed bool),
+) error {
+	rows, err := db.QueryContext(context.Background(),
+		"SELECT path, size, mtime, head <> '' FROM files")
+	if err != nil {
+		return fmt.Errorf("read records: %w", err)
+	}
+
+	defer func() { _ = rows.Close() }()
+
+	for rows.Next() {
+		var (
+			path        []byte
+			size, mtime int64
+			hashed      int64
+		)
+
+		err = rows.Scan(&path, &size, &mtime, &hashed)
+		if err != nil {
+			return fmt.Errorf("read record: %w", err)
+		}
+
+		fn(string(path), size, mtime, hashed != 0)
+	}
+
+	err = rows.Err()
+	if err != nil {
+		return fmt.Errorf("read records: %w", err)
+	}
+
+	return nil
+}
+
 // updateBatchSize is the number of record changes committed per
 // transaction during the update pass. The filesystem is authoritative
 // and the database an eventually-consistent reflection of it, so