Stop the slow test packages waiting (closes #263)

The slowest test packages spent their time waiting rather than testing.

db.Params gains an optional PasswordCost (zero means bcrypt.DefaultCost), and the db, ircserver and handlers tests hash at bcrypt.MinCost. A test IRC server's relay checks its queue on broker notification instead of polling. The service and handlers tests build config.Config directly and run in parallel; config exports DefaultTrustedProxies and ParseTrustedProxies for them. Fixed sleeps give way to waits for the event. Production defaults are unchanged.

What still takes time is CPU work under -race or a timeout a test is about.

Model: opus-5-5

internal/db/export_test.go

@@ -8,10 +8,12 @@ import (
 	"testing"
 	"time"
 
+	"golang.org/x/crypto/bcrypt"
 	"sneak.berlin/go/neoirc/internal/dbtest"
 )
 
-// NewTestDatabase creates an in-memory database for testing.
+// NewTestDatabase creates an in-memory database for testing. It
+// hashes passwords at bcrypt.MinCost.
 func NewTestDatabase(tb testing.TB) (*Database, error) {
 	tb.Helper()
 
@@ -23,8 +25,9 @@ func NewTestDatabase(tb testing.TB) (*Database, error) {
 	}
 
 	database := &Database{ //nolint:exhaustruct // test helper, params not needed
-		conn: conn,
-		log:  slog.Default(),
+		conn:         conn,
+		log:          slog.Default(),
+		passwordCost: bcrypt.MinCost,
 	}
 
 	err = database.runMigrations(context.Background())