feat: add OPER command and oper-only WHOIS client info

- Add OPER command with NEOIRC_OPER_NAME/NEOIRC_OPER_PASSWORD config
- Add is_oper column to sessions table
- Add RPL_WHOISACTUALLY (338): show client IP/hostname to opers
- Add RPL_WHOISOPERATOR (313): show oper status in WHOIS
- Add GetOperCount for accurate LUSERS oper count
- Fix README schema: add ip/is_oper to sessions, ip/hostname to clients
- Add OPER command documentation and numeric references to README
- Refactor executeWhois to stay under funlen limit
- Add comprehensive tests for OPER auth, oper WHOIS, non-oper WHOIS

Closes #81

pkg/irc/numerics.go

@@ -132,6 +132,7 @@ const (
 	RplNoTopic         IRCMessageType = 331
 	RplTopic           IRCMessageType = 332
 	RplTopicWhoTime    IRCMessageType = 333
+	RplWhoisActually   IRCMessageType = 338
 	RplInviting        IRCMessageType = 341
 	RplSummoning       IRCMessageType = 342
 	RplInviteList      IRCMessageType = 346
@@ -295,6 +296,7 @@ var names = map[IRCMessageType]string{
 	RplNoTopic:         "RPL_NOTOPIC",
 	RplTopic:           "RPL_TOPIC",
 	RplTopicWhoTime:    "RPL_TOPICWHOTIME",
+	RplWhoisActually:   "RPL_WHOISACTUALLY",
 	RplInviting:        "RPL_INVITING",
 	RplSummoning:       "RPL_SUMMONING",
 	RplInviteList:      "RPL_INVITELIST",